Defining her youth simply as “a struggle,” it’s safe to say much of her life story is embedded in the music.
“Virago Buffalo is a collective for women, NB, genderqueer and other traditionally underrepresented creatives in Buffalo, New York.”
My boyfriend and I have lived together for almost a year now, and let’s just say it’s not going well. It seems like we fight constantly about chores and who does what.
“I don’t wanna be just reduced to a rapper, I’m a lyricist. I have more to offer than your average rapper does.”
We’re not struggling and even do well financially, but money comes up almost daily, usually in the form of a lecture or berating me.
“There’s a skill in knowing how to record, knowing how to write, knowing how to rap and knowing how to tell stories and I know how to do all of them.”
“We only had each other, so we had to be each others’ partners, lovers, best friends, harshest critics… We were all that we had.”
We managed to get 85.71% of the QC Gang under the same roof in early August, so obviously it was time for a proper photoshoot, for the first time since we became a team 3 years ago! Photos by Jillian Barrile Photography and Alana Adetola Arts Photography, LLC.
“I’ll be damned if I know what I said, but I remember, at the end of my speech, I said, ‘It’s a beautiful day for a revolution.'”
The Red Party and the fight to end period poverty returns to Resurgence Brewing this Sunday, June 9, from 3 p.m. to 6 p.m.
Qween City chatted recently with three organizations working to bring visibility to bicycling in Buffalo, specifically in the women/-identifying space.
Lara & Alana venture down to Allen Street to try all of the desserts at Mundy Cakes. An onslaught of pure jealousy ensues.
“As a creator, being able to capture these moments and being able to see the before, during, and after is so incredible…I don’t want to leave because I want to see it happen. I want to take pictures of it happening.”
When my parents were my age, they were well-established and a lot more stable than I am now. For a while, I was on the same path, but in my late 20s everything kind of fell apart.
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I’m seeing a man who is stuck in a relationship that is so entwined with his friends and living situation that we just pretend that part of his life doesn’t exist.
“We wanted to take a chance on an area of town that we know for a fact will be IT in five years, and we wanted to be a part of it.”
Whether you gave 2018 the smackdown like Ocasio-Cortez to every one of her critics or you shutdown like our government, 2018 likely left you feeling some type of way. Utterance presents 18 word summaries of how it left some of our readers feeling.
Join Afura and Ashera as they try to hold their prosecco and muse about the energetic effects of the darkest time of year, the varying intensity of divination techniques, and the power of religious iconography in an eclectic witchcraft practice.
On Sunday, November 18, Qween City joined the team at Combat Conditioning for a solid two hours of intense self-defense fitness skills, combined with an enlightening educational component. It was an awesome afternoon of camaraderie, learning, and sweat, sweat, sweat.
Virginia Leary, known on the socials as Zero Waste Buffalo, is bringing the local sustainability movement into focus, one picture-perfect mason jar at a time.
A little over a month ago, I ended things with a woman I’d been seeing. There were many reasons as to why, but most of them fall under the “I don’t like how you treat me” umbrella.
I’ve noticed that some of my friends seem to bounce from one relationship to the next, often with no time in between. I’ve asked the more serious offenders about this, and they never really seem to know why they do this.
I have an issue that’s not about sex or relationships, but it’s still confusing and I’m hoping you can help.
On Friday, November 2, Qween City was a lucky attendee to the city’s first BraVa! event, produced by the YWCA of Western New York.
“At the end of the day, for me it’s about making sure that people have this information and have this literacy and have these skills, no matter where they got that information.”
Join Afura and Ashera this Halloween, as they carve pumpkins and talk correspondences and fun ways to honor ancestors and the wheel of the year.
BraVa!, a storytelling fundraiser featuring the humble bra, comes to Buffalo for the first time this Friday, November 2.
We haven’t talked about anything inappropriate at all, but there’s still something that feels a little off about this whole thing.
Everything about Grindhaus screams local quirky coffee shop you want to while away the hours at, sipping a hot beverage and working on your latest tome.
The Buffalo comedy community is throwin’ a rip-roaring good time 8 p.m., Thursday, October 18, at Mr Goodbar, in support of Baby Violet.
Qween City recently had a chance to hang with the gang of Gypsy Parlor, in anticipation of this year’s Dining Out for Life to benefit Evergreen Health. Come see us this Tuesday, October 9, from 5 p.m. on. Come hungry! 25 percent of sales will go directly to fighting HIV in WNY.
On Saturday, October 6, from 6-9 p.m., the Ukrainian-American Civic Center will play host to Heroine Hijack, a multi-genre arts presentation and fundraiser celebrating women artists in Buffalo.
September is Suicide Prevention Month, and there’s been increased dialogue on the topic on all social media platforms.
The Walking & Falling DJ workshop, mentor program, and mini-fest takes place this weekend at Sugar City, Underground Niteclub, and Georgette.
The 11th Annual Buffalo’s Best Pierogi Contest was held on Saturday, September 15, at Corpus Christi Church in Historic Polonia on Buffalo’s East Side.
After what was a tumultuous better part of this past year, my primary partner and I have chosen to go our separate ways.
Recently I engaged in a bit of casual sex, and the casual in the casual sex took an unexpected turn.
In this month’s episode of Qween of Cups TV, Ashera and Afura interview Jamie Doktor, the goddess behind Buffalo Burlesque Studio and the Buffalo Stripteasers.
“Owning your beauty is important. We only get one body to live in, and we experience all pleasure and pain through this vessel.”
Lara, Alana, and Mama Martini recently spent a most delectable afternoon studying the delights of Raclettes, and eventually emerged to tell the tale.
In conjunction with the team at StaffBuffalo, we are pleased present the second in a two-part series of articles that offer tips and advice to job seekers newly entering the workforce or exploring a career change.
“No matter who you are or what your personal style is…you will appreciate yourself in a way you never have before.”
Recently my girlfriend went in for a standard check-up and was diagnosed with an STI. Neither of us have ever had any symptoms, and now I can’t help but worry that she’s been cheating on me.
In conjunction with the team at StaffBuffalo, we are pleased present the first in a two-part series of articles that offer tips and advice to job seekers newly entering the workforce or exploring a career change.
In this week’s Smash Talks, Smashera addresses a reader who’s falling fast for a co-worker and friend.
Schondra Aytch was on the scene at Sugar City this past Saturday for an awe-inspiring live installation of Queen City Live, now in its second year.
“I think the best way to even just to learn how to play is just to do it. Play with people who are better and more experienced. You’ll learn a lot faster…It’s just like life, ya know?”
In this week’s Smash Talks, Smashera addresses a reader’s concerns about her anxious-avoidant relationship, and how to keep the love flowin’.
In today’s edition of NOMaste, Lara finds herself in macaron mayhem inside the kitchen of the Blue Eyed Baker.
The galz of Qween City attend a Chair Dancing class at the Buffalo Burlesque Studio one lovely Sunday afternoon, where much sexy-ish hilariousness ensued.
In this special edition of Smash Talks x Mettle, Ashera recounts Qween City’s chair dancing class at the Buffalo Burlesque Studio with the Mistress herself, Jamie Doktor.
“With those things that you love in life, I feel you have to do them because we don’t have tomorrow, right?”
In which I am famous across the continental United States, and you work at a corner-store in Erie County.
“I quit my job and told everyone in the corporate world that I was moving back to Buffalo to start my own baking business.”
Be Steadwell, The Internet, John Mayer, Taylor Swift, Kid Cudi, & the Yeezy Season 2018 Summer Collection round out this month’s installment of Tuesday Tunezday.
Photographer Alana Fajemisin shot with artist Kristin Brandt recently, in anticipation of Kristin’s exhibition at GEORGETTE June 1.
“I wanted to do something, reach out, create something, then bring it to people and be able to engage them.”
On Earth Day 2018, Qween City spent a glorious 60 degree day out on Beiter & Sons’ Farm in Wales, NY, and the headquarters of Alpine Made.
In today’s Smash Talks, Ashera talks to Abby Spindelman, an intimacy coach and yoga teacher who helps hash out the intricate, deep concepts surrounding true intimacy.
On this month’s edition of Qween of Cups, Afura and Ashera tackle sex and gender energy in magic and using the menstrual cycle to time your intentions. All this while drinking margaritas.
Lara & Alana take us on a delight-filled taste tour of Lait Cru Brasserie, in this fourth and final installment of April’s NOMaste, featuring Jill Gedra.
Once a month, Smash Talks columnist Ashera Buhite addresses a difficult life situation and highlights some local agencies that can help you navigate what to do. This month she speaks with Cameron Balon of Crisis Services about sexual assault.
Lara gets it in with Jill Gedra’s recipe for cast iron chicken and pickled romanesco with lentils — yes, please!
Qween City is proud to present the debut episode of the Qween Of Cups talk show, your one-stop shop for all things occult. Join Afura and Ashera as they discuss the wheel of the year, mercury retrograde, and struggle to open champagne.
Jill Gedra gives us a top ten list of amazing food moments and activities to strive for in a food life well lived.
The Prettiots, Kelli Schaefer, Rihanna, Ana Tijoux, AmaLee, Hayley Heynderickx, and Class Warfare round out this month’s installment of Tuesday Tunezday.
“You have to make people feel as though they want to take time out to read it, and subscribe to it, and come away feeling as though it was useful.”
Buffalo Spree’s Elizabeth Licata opened her Allentown home to Qween City for an incredible photo shoot recently. We couldn’t choose just a few so have opted to show the full spread here.
It’s been a LONG time since I’ve been in this stage of a relationship or courtship or whatever and I don’t know what’s going on.
“It was just great — getting to know somebody new and helping each other. That’s when I said, ‘I think I’m going to do this.'”
The QC staff shares their latest jamtunez; check out the new monthly installment Tunezday to get your groove on with new and old faves.
Lara lives the dream on this week’s #NOMaste, partaking in all of the delights of Whimsy Confections.
I have recently come to the realization that all of the important decisions in my life have been dictated by others.
“I expect things to go well, but if they don’t, I have the foundation to step back, rework stuff and do it again.”
“My music for me has always been about healing, and the person I’m looking directly at in front of me, the group of people I’m around.”
Every time he gets involved with someone, a big part of me wants to warn them about him but I don’t know how.
On Sunday, January 21, Buffalo joined myriad rallies across the country for the second annual Women’s Solidarity March.
Recently, I found out that my ex is dating someone else and knowing this has opened up all the pain again.
This installment of #17Words comes from Beata Skonecki, as presented by Tia Brown. Drop Tia a line at email@example.com to speak your 17 words.
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Lara straight up devours Mallory’s stock of holiday treats at Incredible Edibles in this fourth and final installment of December’s NOMaste.
Food lies at the heart of our bodies and our culture; it is there for celebrations and sustenance. NOMaste features a local fierce foodie each month, in four weekly segments. First, an interview, then a top 10 list, followed by a recipe to share, and finally a food review. This food corner will not just feature local …
This installment of #17Words comes from Mikayla Schneiter, as presented by Tia Brown. Drop Tia a line at firstname.lastname@example.org to speak your 17 words.
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I really don’t want to lose this friendship, but I also don’t know how to talk to them about it or make it not awkward.
“I would have never thought when I started doing it from home, making bougie strawberries, that three years from then, this is where I’d be.”
Lara gets it IN in this fourth and final installment of this month’s NOMaste, featuring Elder Martinez of Mexico City Hamburg.
I recently discovered that an ex of my boyfriend’s reached out to him in a definitely flirtatious 1000% non-platonic message. He doesn’t know that I know about it, and I’m furious.
My ex won’t stop blowing up my shit. Do I have any options other than blocking him to get him to chill?
Elder Martinez reminisces on her major Mexico City cravings — luckily for us, she’s recreating some of them in the kitchens of Mexico City Hamburg.
I’ve abstained from sex and dating for about a year now. I had to take myself out of game to spend time healing and growing from the whirlwind of experiences I endured last year.
Photographer Jillian Barrile was on hand for the Buffalo Beer Goddesses 5-year anniversary party at Mr. Goodbar September 28. Check out our #tbt retrospective!
“Okay, you’re getting older, this is something you want to do, so either do it now, or forever hold your peace.”
In this very special edition of NOISEMAKERS, we profile Qween City’s very own Shannon Dawn in her newest act, Shanzig, as well as Sherry D. Koehler, the baddest lady drummer in the 716. Shannon Dawn Shanzig is a Danzig tribute act, which is “more than a cover.” This more theatrical act will be doing “10 …
Lara gets down on Kaldi, Grover Cleveland, and Lil Russert in the fourth and final installment of this month’s NOMaste, featuring Undergrounds Coffee House & Roastery.
On Tuesday, October 10, 2017, nearly 100 restaurants in the Western New York area took part in the 15th annual Dining Out for Life, a fundraiser to support the services of community health provider Evergreen Health.
For some reason, though, as soon as I really get attached to them, they end up pulling away and I’m left heartbroken.
“I knew that if I always worked that hard, that I would get it, ya know? No matter what, I would make it happen.”
I’ve looked online a bit, but I often get overwhelmed and just end up closing the tab after thinking, “where does that even go??”
No one told us anything except to smile more, look less angry, to talk with less spit in our mouths.
Lara gets ferment-freaky, in the fourth and final installment of this month’s NOMaste profile, featuring Tara Sasiadek of Snowy Owl Kombucha.
After years of dating and failed relationships, I’ve been able to narrow down what is potentially my greatest flaw: jealousy.
Or will a blood clot really form in my leg and shoot straight to my lung b/c I don’t wanna have babiez like, ever!?
There were several indulgences on the table when Lara visited the Terrace at Delaware Park — check out the fourth and final installment of this month’s NOMaste, featuring Maxine Doyle.
“We want people to be comfortable asking questions and inquiring about things in a way that just sort of demystifies cocktails.”
What kills me is how much I loved him and thought that I needed him, so I ended up giving up a lot for him.
So, for as long as I can remember, I’ve always wanted to have sex in the water. I want to try shower sex or sex in a hot tub. Stuff like that.
“It was so easy and simple, but my mom could not stop raving about it. She would always say that everything tastes better when someone else prepares it for you.”
Lately, a lot more people have been asking me in person and online about getting tested, mostly because of a (now falsified) article that named Buffalo as the “most dangerous city for online dating.”
Lara feasts on the Croque Madame and Caprese Sandwich in the fourth and final installment of this month’s NOMaste, featuring Prish Moran of Sweet_ness 7.
He acts like he can’t do basic tasks or function at all without me and tells me that he cries himself to sleep…
When is it time to be more intimate in a relationship? By intimate, I mean: when do you fart, burp, etc.?
“If I listened to everyone around me I would never have this — I would have never had this building!”
I’m about a year and a half into my first-ever relationship with a woman. Several months in, my fatal relationship flaw appeared on schedule: I started to become completely uninterested in sex with my very loving girlfriend.
Lara tackles the Veggie Wet Shoes and Margie Meal in the fourth and final installment of this month’s NOMaste, featuring Amanda Amico of Amy’s Truck & Swan Street Diner.
“No matter what, the alpha and the omega, the beginning and the end, you’re going to end up nine layers deep at some point.”
So, I have been mulling over the idea of “treating” my husband to a threesome for our 10-year anniversary. He has told me a few times that his fantasy has always been to have a threesome and that he would love to try it with me and another girl of MY choosing.
“Had I not potentially zapped myself to death as a toddler, maybe I wouldn’t have grown up to have such a faithful bond with electronics.”
My entire life men have never taken me seriously or loved me but have instead given me crass sexual come-ons and treated me in a derogatory and sexual-only way.
I’m a woman who’s always been in hetero-paired relationships, but lately, the idea of dating a woman has felt more like something I might want.
The City of Good Neighbors is celebrating Pride for the 26th year this weekend. This year’s theme is “Connect,” but that doesn’t meant you have to connect with everyone.
This edition of NOISEMAKERS features four musicians who will be performing during Saturday’s Porchfest: Kerry Fey, Alison Pipitone, Frieda Bacha, and Laura Bowen.
I’m writing to let you know I’m officially done with men and dating. I’ve taken myself off the market because dating makes me lose my f**king mind. All the horrible experiences I’ve endured with men have taken a toll on my self-esteem and now non-existent sex drive. I don’t feel safe with men anymore. Where do I go from here?
I’m hoping you can help but I know this is a lot to ask for—my life is generally falling apart. My long-term relationship of five years is dwindling into dust, my career is non-existent and I’m scarred from a puzzling childhood. However, I’m not in a position to afford weekly therapy that is clearly much needed. Do you have any tips or know of any resources?
Walking into the Buffalo State College Sports Arena on Saturday, April 22 felt a bit like stepping into fashion week. The arena buzzed with an excitement, yet controlled chaos for “Runway 10: Remember | Imagine”.
“I cannot remember a time when I perceived one mom as more important than the other, one as more loving, one as more ‘real,’ and I never will.”
My relationship with my mother is…complicated. I haven’t spoken to her in several years due to it being toxic and painful. I always feel super weird around Mother’s Day and I don’t really know what to do about it. I know it’s just another day and I should just ignore it, but I can’t seem to.
This past Saturday, May 6, was International Female Ride Day for lady motorcyclists across the globe. We joined in on the fun with Spoke & Dagger.
In the past year, I’ve been “ghosted” twice. I’ll hang out with a person for a few months and everything seems to be going fine, and then all of a sudden they cut contact with me completely.
Man on the street Jason Murphy walked a mile in her shoes to advocate for sexual violence justice and prevention.
Dating has become really frustrating for me. I’ve noticed that I inadvertently push everyone away with each successive relationship I find myself in and I’m more and more closed off.
Recently I was called a narcissist by an ex. Normally, being labeled by someone who lacks credentials in any field of psychology has very little bearing on how I live my life. However, this one was different.
“She inspired me to subscribe to the life of a visual artist because I could practice creating what I wanted to portray with bits and pieces.”
Photographer Alana Fajemisin of AlanAdetolArts, LLC, was on hand at the RejuVinex Day Spa grand opening Sunday, March 26.
After years and years of confusion and questioning and soul-searching, I’ve finally admitted to myself that I am asexual (or at least gray-/demi-). This realization has brought me a lot of peace and overwhelming relief. All well and good.
My teenage son has begun questioning his sexual orientation and gender identity and has now become very depressed. I tell him that I love and support him no matter what, but I don’t know what else I can do. Any advice would be appreciated.
“I put a tarp on the floor in my room and I cut hair in my room and charged friends like $5 for a color and then we would go to Denny’s and eat fries.”
This winter’s installment of the H.E.A.L. BFLO yoga retreat and festival was a strong curation of Western New York’s best yoga offerings and a perfect remedy for the winter blues.
I have to stop using hormonal birth control for health reasons, but my boyfriend and I have never really used condoms so I don’t know where to start.
Qween City sat down with burlesque performer/local artist/Hostel Buffalo-Niagara employee Cat McCarthy to talk about the hostel’s current fight to stay in their downtown location.
My mom passed away five months ago. My dad who was married to her for 25+ years has already started dating. If you could shed some insight on why he could have possibly moved on this fast, I would really appreciate it.
My partner and I are in an open relationship, but every time I want to exercise that openness my partner gets hurt so I generally just don’t act. Is there a better way to deal with this without sacrificing?
Over the past few months, my love life has become a spiritually taxing train wreck. I suspect that I’d greatly improve my success in romantic relationships and my overall emotional health by taking a deliberate break from dating to tend to my personal development.
As a fan of hardcore, I am used to having dudes yell aggressive shit at me. After the Shitshow of 2016, I am over it.
With federal support in jeopardy, agencies like Crisis Services will rely more on state funding and local support.
I recently ended a four month thing with a guy who I was just dating. We saw each other at least once a week, though there were “off” weeks on occasion as we are busy adults with lives.
These city prints come in six different sizes and four different styles, ranging from $29.99 – $79.99.
The steel plant is closed. The steel plant is closed. Ignore the sound of power-hammers beating in the hot summer nights. The steel plant is closed.
I keep finding myself in relationships I don’t like to please men that I’m not all that into. The dynamic usually consists of me not being that into them, while they’re head over heels for me. I’m bad at telling people what they don’t want to hear so I let it linger on.
“We’re just not going to have refugees coming from these countries, and these folks are the fabric of our communities.”
After about a decade of a very DGAF attitude towards relationships, and several tumultuous / hilariously awful / plain old hilarious short-term affairs (and even more one-nighter/one-weekers), I think I might be FINALLY ready / interested in meeting an actual grown-up and having an actual grown-up relationship with them.
“It’s our family’s philosophy to keep building the neighborhood, but you do need to make these projects work.”
“We would be stupid if we didn’t take the spot, and we’re not ready, and we can’t afford it, and we’ll figure it out, and here we are.”
“I found that as my role early on because I felt blessed to have all this knowledge and practice from doing it every week.”
“If we continue to smile politely behind our closed mouths, we risk living in a society in which such hatred becomes the norm.”
“The goal is not to have a specific form and to look like anyone else. The goal is to look like you.”
“I stand back, give it a look, and remember that I just did that with my own two hands from start to finish.”
“You know how it’s nice to wake up and be excited about something? I have to do that or I won’t want to wake up.”
“It feels safe to explore some things that maybe make people uncomfortable in their daily lives, that maybe make ME uncomfortable in my daily life.”
“I want to take part in projects that matter and facilitate change, because the path our culture is currently following is too scary to let ride out.”
“Turns out, even after all the naysayers, the plan turned out to be an internationally recognized success.”
“The struggle is real, but when you have a destiny to fulfill, the miracles come when you need them most!”
“I used to make military airplanes for my job, so to me the skate itself is simple. But that’s a matter of perspective.”